Proximity Seeking: The First Step in Bonding with God
Proximity Seeking: The First Step in Bonding with God
What if drawing near to God isn’t just a spiritual discipline — but a deep psychological instinct woven into how you were made?
In this episode of the Bonding with God series, Dr. Victor Counted unpacks proximity seeking — the most foundational step in forming a secure bond with God. Drawing from attachment theory and his new book Bonding with God (Baker Academic, 2026), Dr. Counted explores why human beings are neurologically and relationally wired to move toward a source of safety when life feels uncertain, threatening, or overwhelming — and what it means when that source is God.
Whether you feel close to God right now or miles away, this episode will help you understand the mechanics of spiritual closeness — and why the instinct to reach for God in hard moments is not weakness, but the beginning of profound faith formation.
In This Episode
- What proximity seeking is — and why it anchors every secure bond
- How attachment theory illuminates our instinct to draw near to God
- What happens in your faith when proximity is disrupted or never developed
- Why this matters for parenting, ministry, counseling, and your own spiritual life
This series is for pastors, therapists, parents, researchers, and anyone who wants to understand the relational and psychological architecture of faith — and build a more secure bond with God.
