Proximity Seeking: The First Step in Bonding with God

Bonding with God Series Proximity Seeking: The First Step in Bonding with God Episode 02  ·  Flourishing with Dr. Victor Counted About This Episode What if drawing near to God isn't just a spiritual discipline — but a deep psychological instinct woven into how you were made? In this episode of the Bonding with God series, Dr. Victor Counted unpacks proximity seeking — the most foundational step in forming a secure bond with God. Drawing from attachment theory and his new book Bonding with God (Baker Academic, 2026), Dr. Counted explores why human beings are neurologically and relationally wired to move toward a source of safety when life feels uncertain,…

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Bonding with God Book is Finally Here

Bonding with God Is Here | The Flourishing Journal The Flourishing Journal Bonding with GodIs Finally Here A word from the author on a book years in the making Victor Counted  ·  April 2026  ·  4 min read What if the way you relate to God is not a fixed fate, but a living story — one that can grow, heal, and flourish? Today is a day I have been quietly working toward for a long time. Bonding with God: Attachment Theory and the Psychology of Faith is now officially published and available through Baker Academic. This book began as a question — one that I kept returning to in…

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Healing Our Relationships Through Bonding with God

What If God Is the Safest Attachment Figure You've Never Let In? | Victor Counted Faith & Psychology What If God Is the Safest Attachment Figure You've Never Let In? How bonding with God can rewire the wounds that keep your relationships broken Victor Counted, Ph.D. Professor & Psychological Scientist · Regent University Most of us arrive at our adult relationships carrying invisible luggage — wounds from early experiences that shaped what we expect from the people we love most. We expect to be abandoned. We fear we will be betrayed. We quietly believe, somewhere beneath conscious thought, that we are simply not enough. These are not personality quirks. They…

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