I used to wake up, reach for my phone, and feel a sense of curiosity. It was that early-2010s optimism---the feeling that the world was a sprawling, slightly chaotic dinner party where you might stumble into a joke, a long-lost friend’s vacation photo, or a weirdly heated debate about a niche hobby. But lately, that curiosity has been replaced by a familiar, low-grade dread. Opening a social media app now feels like walking into a room where everyone is already screaming. Even if you are not the target, the air is thick with the scent of a fight about to happen. We’ve called this "toxicity" for years, but that word…