We Got the Order Wrong: How Christianity Traded Relationship for Religion

We Got the Order Wrong | The Flourishing Journal For generations, we have handed children doctrines before we gave them a living God to hold onto. The consequences are written in the data — and in the faces of those quietly walking away. VC Victor Counted, Ph.D. Associate Professor of Psychology · Regent University · Faculty Affiliate, Harvard Human Flourishing Program Walk into almost any evangelical church on any given Sunday, and you will see it at the end of the service — the altar call. The music softens. The lights dim slightly. A voice says something like, "If you want to give your life to Jesus tonight, repeat this…

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Healing Our Relationships Through Bonding with God

What If God Is the Safest Attachment Figure You've Never Let In? | Victor Counted Faith & Psychology What If God Is the Safest Attachment Figure You've Never Let In? How bonding with God can rewire the wounds that keep your relationships broken Victor Counted, Ph.D. Professor & Psychological Scientist · Regent University Most of us arrive at our adult relationships carrying invisible luggage — wounds from early experiences that shaped what we expect from the people we love most. We expect to be abandoned. We fear we will be betrayed. We quietly believe, somewhere beneath conscious thought, that we are simply not enough. These are not personality quirks. They…

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